Wednesday, February 8, 2012
Homeschooling has been an incredible blessing, but a small curse in that we are having invent the best way for him to be taught. The freedom to invent our own school has brought up things like unschooling vs schooling, relaxed vs structured, workbooks vs discussion, books vs internet, etc. We can do anything so we are a little overwhelmed at not doing everything. Does he learn best in the morning or afternoon? Should he do chores first or after? Do we set time limits or assignments? Should we follow what the public schools are studying or follow what interests him. What do I if he doesn't want to do anything?
All these things kind of came to a head today. Add in a healthy dose of hormone induced hysteria and you can pretty much envision a really long day!
There is also that battle for me between asking too much of him and usually, not asking enough. His low self esteem makes him terrified of failure. Not just big failure but little everyday failures can send him into a panic.
On top of all that, he is headed to his dads house in a few days and will be there for a few weeks. He loves his dad and really wants to go, but it still causes anxiety for both of us. His dad is not the most empathetic person, so any emotional outbursts on Shauns part are not well handled. Clint loves him, but feeling for others is not his strong suit.
Hopefully, the next few weeks will go well. Just waiting to see.
Friday, January 13, 2012
"If you give a mom a muffin, she'll want a cup of cocoa to go with it. She'll pour herself some. Her three-year-old will spill the cocoa. She'll wipe it up. Wiping the floor, she will find dirty socks. She'll remember she has to do laundry. When she puts the laundry in the washer, she'll trip over boots and bump into the freezer. Bump...ing into the freezer will remind her...... she has to plan supper. She will get out a pound of hamburger. She'll look for her cookbook. (101 Things To Make With A Pound Of Hamburger.) The cookbook is sitting under a pile of mail. She will see the phone bill, which is due tomorrow. She will look for her checkbook. The checkbook is in her purse that is being dumped out by her two-year-old. She'll smell something funny. She'll change the two-year-old. While she is changing the two-year-old the phone will ring. Her five-year-old will answer and hang up. She'll remember that she wants to phone a friend to come for cocoa. Thinking of cocoa will remind her that she was going to have a cup. She will pour herself some. And chances are, if she has a cup of cocoa, her kids will have eaten the muffin that went with it." by Kathy Fictorie ~
My Friday the thirteenth has gone this way a little, one thing reminds me of the next reminds me of the next. I cleaned the kitchen, decluttered the counters and top of the fridge and table. I swept and put away. I took all the stuff to the garage. I ironed the wax out of the carpet. We have eaten at home all three meals yesterday and today. I watered all the plants and fixed the tire swing (replaced the ropes). I checked Shaun's math test and finished my book (I found a new author of Amish love stories). I rearranged a little of the living room but not the whole thing. Shaun wants it to stay the same so I am moving as little as I can handle. Hopefully, this small change will make it feel better. I vacuumed and dusted. I still need to put away the desktop computer and monitor in the garage, clean the bathroom, mop the floor, make dinner, dust and vacuum the rest of the house, help Shaun clean his room, weed the garden, plant the lettuce, herbs, and peas, figure out how I want to arrange the pictures in the living room and kitchen, and wash the "snow" off the front windows and put up the flower decals. Sometime today I need to shower and tonight we are going to have a potty party for Ryan. Now that Timarie isn't working she's getting him potty trained. Tomorrow is laundry and backyard. Should be tons of fun.
Friday, January 6, 2012
I headed for bed about 2:30 but the dog kept scratching at the door and front window. Yes, I was the insane person in my front yard walking my dog until 3am. I finally got to sleep and woke up at 8am. Got up and spent all day sewing again. Finally I ran over to my mom and dad's to print out an invoice for them. I had to add toner in order to print and stopped to help my niece with her math homework so I was there over an hour. I needed gas and to stop at Joann's for snaps get dinner and then head home. It was after 8pm by the time I got home to Shaun.
Shaun had been sick all day, he had thrown up several times. the first time he made it to the bathroom and threw up in the toilet but then thought he was done and closed the lid. Bummer he wasn't done and threw up all over the wall behind the toilet, the painting, the toilet lid and floor. I thought it would be easy to wipe down with my mop, which I then remembered had broken on Monday. On my hands and knees I cleaned up the "over medium eggs" vomit. He went back to the couch and took a nap. Later he got up again, ran past the trash can he didn't see and into the doorway of the bathroom and threw up on the carpet and floor.
By the time I got home at 8pm he had showered too in order to clean up and feel better. We ate until 8:45pm and then I ran to get a money order to pay rent. I headed to Walmart where I was told that in the city of Long Beach money orders cannot be created after 8pm, no idea why. I was referred to another Walmart in an area I wouldn't visit in the daytime let alone 9pm. I headed to Ralph's just outside of Long Beach and was told their money center also closes at 8pm. I headed to another Walmart several miles away because their money center was open until 10pm. When I arrived I stood there for 5 minutes listening to the manager and cashier talk about how to ring up gum and batteries on sale. I was about to explode. Finally I tried to pay for the money order and the debt card wouldn't go through. I knew the money was in there, but it gave us a wierd code that no one knew what it was. After 25 minutes and several phone calls later we discovered that their system cannot use more than one type of payment. So 3 money orders later at 10:05 pm I walked out of Walmart, drove all the way back to Long Beach. Took a 5 mile detour because my exit was closed for construction and there is no other way to get around that area and finally dropped off my rent. I got home, tucked my sick boy into bed, walked the dog and fell into my own bed about 1am.
Friday I woke at 8am again and sewed for another day. with a splitting migraine. I finally finished, but I am exhausted with no energy to clean my house which has been ignored for three whole days and is under piles of mess. I think I am going to make some popcorn and watch tv until my brain turns into a gelatenous mess.
Monday, January 2, 2012
The big things that have changed this year are me being laid off and taking Shaun out of public school to start homeschooling. I haven't made the lay off a secret, nor how much I am enjoying being paid to be a stay at home mom while I look for work.
Homeschooling has not been so public. For years I have wanted to homeschool. Shaun is a rather unique child and it has been a constant struggle emotionally, physically, and educationally for him to be in public school. Finally we had enough. The final straws were when he brought home three weeks worth of assignments that he had gotten zero credit. Each days work was 5 grammar questions or sentences and five days worth each week. Each day was worth 1 point, if he missed 5 points of any question for any day he received NO credit for the whole week worth of work-really ridiculous.
Next he took his chapter one test in math and got 30% because he finished less than half of it. He was able to retake the test and receive 70% or his better score whichever was less. He was getting caught up on long division (a simple multiplication or subtraction error can throw the whole thing off) so I told him not to do those problems at all. He worked all the rest of them and ignored the long division until the end then he only attempted one of them. He earned 85% by skipping those 3 problems and proved to his teacher that he didn't need to be in the lower math class, he really was bored, and just made 3 mistakes but understood all the concepts.
Finally, he had an assignment in Social Studdies. The instructions were that he repeat the question in the answer (why I don't know). #1 was to list the 5 seas in alphabetic order. He wrote "The five seas are ..." and listed them in alphabetic order. He got it wrong because he did not write "The five seas IN ALPHABETIC ORDER are...". ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? You are going to ruin a child's grade and self esteem for THAT???
November 15, we started school at home. "Independent Study" and it has been wonderful. He does math with online quizzes from the same book he was using at school. We studied plate techtonics with play-dough and spelling and vocab with words he mispelled during assignments or didn't know the meaning of. PE is walking the dog or bouncing on the tramp (since his swim team has stopped for the holidays). He is learning spanish which he wouldn't be able to study until next year. He plays the piano and violin every day and we start with "a proverb a day" (stolen idea from the duggars) and reading the Book of Mormon. Writing assignments consist of writing the articles of faith. We start about 8am and end at noon. There is no homework and he gets to play with as many friends as he wants. He takes an art class and a writing class at the charter school on Tuesdays and we go to the park with a homeschool group Mon afternoons.
I don't know what we'll do if I find a job, but for now we are taking it for all it's worth.
I am also going to be working on a few new business ventures so we will see how it goes, wish me luck!
Happy New Year.